Talk to me about pro-dom work, what is it?
It's the boy version of being a dominatrix. I'm a fantasy facilitator and am skilled in a whole range of fetish activities. People come to me because they have a particular fantasy that they want to live out or a specific activity that they want to learn more about. In addition to helping to turn peoples fantasies into reality, I also do a lot of education. I work with both individuals and couples and provide practical hands-on education to help them up their game. My favorite clients are those with whom I see regularly and get the chance to build an ongoing connection with.
Who is your typical client?
My clients come from a diversity of backgrounds and ages. I see men, women and trans folk of all stripes. The unifying characteristic that most of my clients have is respect and a desire to learn or to push themselves.
Tell me about your sexuality?
I'm queer and have partners from all over the gender spectrum. I identify strongly as kinky, it's perhaps the biggest driving force in my sexuality. I also identify strongly as a switch. While I almost exclusively top when I am working one on one with clients, in both my personal and performance lives I am a voracious switch. There isn’t anything that I do as a top that I haven’t experienced as a bottom. This experience gives me an intuitive understanding of the dynamics at play and helps me as I craft the emotional arc of a scene.
What do you like best about Seattle?
Being surrounded by the mountains and having the opportunity to visit remote wild places that are only a day trip from the city.
What’s your favorite piece of trivia about the city?
Lou Grahm, Seattle's most famous madam, was a key figure in rebuilding after the Great Seattle Fire and also responsible for starting perhaps the city's finest brothel. She worked closely with businessmen and politicians and it's said that all local officials didn't pay when visiting her brothel/parlor house.
What’re the best three things about being a pro-dom?
Best three things are getting paid to do something I am passionate about, the chance to learn and grow alongside of the folks who I work with, and the opportunity to co-create meaningful connections.
What's the most important qualities to you in a client?
Respectful, willing to push themselves, trust – although that is developed over time. Overall having the ability to communicate is key. There's nothing sexier than someone who knows what they want and how to ask for it.
What do you do when you aren’t seeing clients?
I’m the mad genius behind www.seattledungeon.com. If I’m not working in the dungeon, I’m probably down at the shop working on a new addition to someone else’s dungeon. Outside of work, I’m a passionate rock climber, cyclist, filmmaker and performance artist.
You are a big climber, right? What’s the most thrilling part of that?
The chance to discover new places and the way that climbing gives me the skill set and confidence to go places where not that many people can be. Through this I get to access wilder and more remote places and see the beauty of the world, especially places that are less touched by people. Additionally the community around climbing, is really special. Similar to kink, there is a certain type of intimacy that comes from doing dangerous things together while trusting that your partner will help keep you safe.